Are You Fat Phobic?

Fat! Apparently nobody wants it, everyone has it and most are afraid of it. Hence fat phobia! The media has taught men that fat women aren't good enough. But, it's ok if they are fat! By the way, many women believe this to be true.  Thanks for that.

Often woman are not even aware of the low self worth they feel. Do subservient woman who wear scarves on their heads have feelings like this? Are they even allowed to have feelings of self-love?  Am I ignorant?

 Why, do men want skinny bitches? Having sex with someone bony doesn't sound too pleasurable to me. It sounds painful, but what the hell do I know. I'm f-ing fat!

Most women have a problem with the word fat. Some cry at the word fat. They cry if they are called fat. It is so sad.  I’ve been called fat and a bitch, oooooh the truth, it doesn’t sting badly anymore.

Fat is considered politically incorrect. Over weight, that’s the term we fat people can live with.  I'm fat and I admit it. I will not be judged by the size of my ass!  I am strong and have a great amount of muscle, though still 30 lbs "overweight". It really sucks because I love chocolate, sugar, bread all the things that make and keep you fat.

 Why as a society, do we judge people on their size and weight, woman more than men?  Why is it ok to be a fat man, but not a fat woman? Discrimination? When is someone not too fat? Who is the judge? Penis people (men)? I believed I was fat even when I wasn't. 

I don't know that I will ever see myself as thin even if I am.  Even when I was normal body size, I didn't believe it! Ok how fucked up is that? Where do men find the skinny ones? First of all most of them are crazy!

With so many fat women, it's no wonder men on dating sights are like vultures for the hotties. Really, if 2/3 of women are overweight something has got to give. Hey fat chicks need love too!

I think women in general have low self worth, fat, thin or indifferent. I have worked on this for a long time and I really believed I wasn't worthy.  Worthy (or not worthy) of what I'm not quite sure, there are so many things. I couldn't be loved because I was fat, never good enough. I only broke 2 bills once!

Women who are afraid of fat workout a lot and/or starve themselves. I think many may not realize their fear. And I get it. I think fat women are discriminated against with clothing, airplane seats, and in many other ways.  Lululemon and Abercrombie don't even want fat people in their stores. No fat thighs in our pants.  If two thirds of the population is fat who buys the clothes?

In 30 years when our planet is burning up and it is survival of the fittest for food and water, the fat people are going to be a hot commodity. They will have money, food and water.

I have really accepted who I am. I accept reality. I can also do something about it and I have been.  I have been working hard on the mental piece of shedding the fat. Even though I am only about 25 pounds overweight, I see myself as fat. What asshole put that in my brain? When I was asked to describe myself, not so long ago it was "900 lbs soaking wet.”

Maybe it was a joke, but I really believed it and felt like it! Losing weight is a total mind game.  Your head has to be in it, the madness comes from your head. You must be so aware, body and mind awareness. I must manage all my thoughts and feelings, because all the craziness that goes with the fat mental state can send you to the insane asylum.

I talk to a lot of fat people. Their wacked out heads drives you nutty! For me to change this mindset it has taken a lot of prayer and meditation.  I have had to go deep into myself to see the real truth; you would think the truth would be easier to swallow than my batty head!  It is so difficult to love and accept ourselves. It takes so much mental action. I have to shrink myself constantly, thoughts, actions, mind games and reality! 

Over Eater, Binge Eater? How To Get a Grip On It, and Not On a Fork

 Compulsive over eater, binge eater, whatever you want to call it, clearly many of us have this problem. With two thirds of women over weight and half obese, we as a gender have a problem with our relationship with food! We are embarrassed by our weight, our secret eating habits, and miffed as to why we can't control this problem.

Willpower is fiction in the face of sugar addiction! It really pisses me off. I have been trying to control this problem for a really long time.  I am finally giving in, I need to get to the underlying problem.

When I over eat, I feel like crap and then beat the crap out of myself for it, nice. next I possibly over exercise, or if I'm really in the sh$ter, not workout at all. Of course promising to myself that this is the last time! I believe that with all my heart.

No offense, but skinny bitches have this problem too!

Men and Women who are Compulsive Overeaters will sometimes hide behind their physical appearance, using it as a blockade against society (Common in survivors of sexual abuse). They feel guilty for not being "good enough," shame for being overweight, and generally have a very low self-esteem. They use food and eating to cope with these feelings, which only leads into the cycle of feeling them ten-fold and trying to find a way to cope again. With low self esteem and self worth there is often constant need for love and validation, he/she will turn to obsessive episodes of binging and eating as a way to forget the pain and the desire for affection.

Why can't the emotional eating fix our emotional problem? Apparently half to two-thirds of us have crazy thoughts, behaviors and emotions with food.

Researchers have speculated there is an abnormality of endorphin metabolism in the brain of binge eaters that triggers the addictive process. This is in line with other theories of addiction that attribute it not to avoidance of withdrawal symptoms, but to a primary problem in the reward centers of the brain. For the compulsive overeater, the ingestion of trigger foods causes release of the neurotransmitters, serotonin and dopamine. This could be another sign of neurobiological factors contributing to the addictive process.

Abstinence from addictive food and the food eating processes cause withdrawal symptoms in those with eating disorders. There may be higher levels of depression and anxiety due to the decreased levels of serotonin in the individual.

So what is the answer for controlling this problem. Treatment, Overeaters Anonymous, a shrink?

I am now working on a new program for myself. I am going to start journaling when I start having these thoughts. I want to get a handle on the monkey in my brain, apparently I get low self worth and no esteem from my monkey. I really thought I had dealt with this stuff years ago, I guess it creeps back in when you are not paying attention! When you aren't paying attention you can eat 5000 calorie without batting an eyelash!  

My new motto is pay attention! My short ADD attention span gives me huge problems with this on consistency. Pay attention. Pay attention to the weird awful feelings that come with this compulsive over eating. Pay attention to what goes in my mouth. Pay attention to verything.

Confessions Of A Crazed Sugar Addict

Sugar makes me nuts! I crave it for no reason. I can hardly control myself when I’m in a certain mood, or it is in front of me, or I need it like a heroin addict needs a fix. Frankly, some days I wish I could just shoot butter cream frosting into my veins. I think it would be less painful.

Insane thoughts go through my head when I need a sugar fix.  I cannot talk myself off the ledge once I hit that point. Am I insane?

For many years I blamed my sugar addiction on my abandonment of alcohol. When I really started to think about it, I think food, or anything that metabolizes like sugar, complex carbs, refined sugar did get me high. 

Even as a kid I used sugar to get me out of my own head. I have come to see that my sugar/food addiction started when I was very young. Maybe a little trauma helped bring it on, but I remember when the sugar switch flipped for me.

I now believe sugar is the gateway drug. When you turn a year old you get a whole cake shoved in your face, then you bury your head in it, and you are never the same again. You constantly seek sugar out. When you are a child you cant get enough!

Why, even when we are children, do we need something to take the edge off?

I am really surprised I don't weigh 400 lbs. When I am on a compulsive binge I cannot stop. My mother makes these nut goodie bars at Christmas, (I might dream about them all year, but I will never admit it!) Most people (normies) can only eat a small sliver because these bars are so rich, oh not me. I could eat half the pan, barely stopping for a breath. It is really sick.  But mostly when I eat like that it's in the closet. It would be easier to be a closet lesbian! Yes, most compulsive overeaters are in the closet. Not like you can hide it, because it shows on your a$$!

Big moist brownies with chocolate frosting...... oh yes I am abstaining from refined sugar/ processed refined foods. I have to tell you it’s a bitch! One day at a f$%^&* time!

Why oh why can't this be easier? Why do I have this defect?

I understand the plight of overweight people. I get it people! It is a fight every day about choices and unfortunately you cant give up food. I like all or nothing, that seems to work for me.  The health risk of this behavior is your life, at best. 

What does it take for me to control this issue that afflicts me on a moment to moment basis? Help I have fallen and I cant get up! I’ve really started to see how this affects my overall life balance. It is no wonder I feel disconnected all the time.  Even though I do Pilates and my muscles are connected, it feels like my soul, heart and head are all going different directions.

Doing regular meditation is really helping and I am a twelve stepper all the way!

I am working on keeping control through prayer and meditation.

I went to mingle with the food Nazis the other night. Those bitches are hardcore. I felt the need to turn my will (Because I am a willful little bitch.) over to the fatties and the pukers. Oh the shame and embarrassment of it all. I really believed I had dealt with my shame but this crap runs deep.

How I Went From Lazy Bitch to Health Coach

Why does it make me so angry that easy way out is better for you than trying to fix the problem slowly and more naturally. Why are we conditioned to do a quick fix? A pill, a knife, another human being or an institution to fix our problems?

Why are we not willing to do the work that it takes to make a positive healthy change?  Why do we take the easy way out? Have knee surgery instead of losing weight and maybe some core and leg strengthening? If we battle addiction, sugar, food or anything done compulsively, we give in to this so easy.  Is it societal? Is it will power or discipline or lack of mental strength, self control, not able to muscle through the pain? When do believe the drug pushing doctors and when are they full of crap. The drug companies keep changing what is healthy for levels of this and that (blood pressure, Cholesterol, etc.) so they can get everyone hooked on Lipitor (so to speak). And we believe what “medical professionals” are telling us.  That community is being led and controlled by an industry that makes billions (billions!) in profits each year. The Health community does not want you to get better.  They need you to be sick and unhealthy to make billions. And Doctors do what they are told by insurance and drug companies.

I am so passionate about what I do because, I have the tools to empower you to make positive lasting change that will take you off the medical merry go round we exist on today.  I have personally dealt with more pain and addiction issues than medical issues. (They tried to get me on Lipitor once because I had one high reading) my cholesterol is fabulous with none of the stuff. Well I am a little crazy so I do take a happy pill. But if I don’t take that I do get really depressed and don’t work out and struggle to keep a healthy lifestyle.  I am not totally against western medicine but I do feel they are drug pushers.

So off that tantrum, empowering others to have the life and body they want and need.

First off the only thing experts can agree on is that exercise is the best thing you can do for your health, mental health, disease risk, weight control, and the list goes on. So this being said it is the only thing agreed upon in the weight loss and medical community.

Why when it feels so great to exercise and eat a whole food diet, do we not want to do it.  How do we get back on the take care of yourself first plan? It is so important to get your head in the right place, and have patients (not my best virtue). How about slowing down and listening to your body. Being mindful of you and what is really going on.  We all can figure it out if we stop and listen to ourselves.

 I am a lazy little Bi$%h when it comes to exercising. I can find a million other things to do. (Especially, if depression is lurking) I have been pushing myself to get the work outs in and it is making a huge difference in every aspect of my life.  Trust me I really have to push myself to go some days. I think it had been baby steps to get to this point but when I look at the progress in the last 10 months. Maybe it was leaps!  Sometimes you need to give yourself a little credit. I want it for the long haul.  I have continually made the healthy, food choices (no diets, a Lifestyle change) I just make better choices now. And yes it is a lot of work. But worth it.  Am I perfect? No. Progress, not perfection.

I really needed to learn what healthy was because I thought I knew but really I did not. I didn’t know any better. We believed low fat, and blah, blah, blah, on what is healthy and what is not. Experts and medical professional couldn’t agree on anything. What was agreed on is now complete BS. I needed to take a 1 year course on nutrition and every dietary theory and listen to leading health experts (not Dr. OZ) to figure out what is best for me and my issues and my overall well being. I want to share these tools.

I would say I am at 85% of healthy lifestyle.  90 % is attainable. Since I have changed my life my pain level is less than a 1. (Normally about a 5.) I am losing weight and inches, I am never hungry. I feel 90 times better than one year ago, I struggle most with sugar addiction (anything that metabolizes like sugar) is an evil reality. Once I start on the sugar it is so hard to control. Abstinence is my best friend. Consistancy is right behind.

Why Pilates? It's Not All About Being Able To Touch Your Toes.

Pilates training focuses on core strength, it trains the body as an integrated whole. Pilates workouts promote strength and balanced muscle development as well as flexibility and increased range of motion for the joints.

Attention to core support and full-body fitness -- including the breath and the mind -- provide a level of integrative fitness that is hard to find elsewhere.

Adaptable to Many Fitness Levels and Needs

Whether you are a senior just starting to exercise, an elite athlete or somewhere in between, the foundations of Pilates movement apply to you. Building from core strength, focusing on proper alignment, and a body/mind integrative approach make Pilates accessible to all. With thousands of possible exercises and modifications, Pilates workouts can be tailored to individual needs.

Increases Flexibility

In Pilates, we work toward a safe increase in length and stretch of the muscles and range of motion within the joints. You won't find quite as much "pretzel logic" in Pilates as you might in yoga, but a body that can stretch and bend to meet the flow of life is a very realistic goal.

Develops Core Strength

The core muscles of the body are the deep muscles of the back, abdomen, and pelvic floor. These are the muscles we rely on to support a strong, supple back, good posture, and efficient movement patterns. When the core is strong, the frame of the body is supported. This means the neck and shoulders can relax, and the rest of the muscles and joints are freed to do their jobs -- and not more. A nice side benefit is that the core training promotes the flat abs that we all covet.

Creates Strength without BulkLong, lean muscles are the name of the game here. In Pilates, we are not looking to build muscles for show. We are building toned muscles that work perfectly within the context of the body as a whole, and the functional fitness needs of a person as they move through life. 

Improves Posture

Good posture is a reflection good alignment supported by a strong core. It is a position from which one can move freely. Pilates trains the body to express itself with strength and harmony. You can see this in the beautiful posture of those who practice Pilates.

Increases Energy

It might seem like a paradox, but the more you exercise, the more energy you have and the more you feel like doing (to a point, of course). Pilates gets the breath and circulation moving, stimulates the spine and muscles, and floods the body with the good feelings one gets from exercising the whole body.

Promotes Weight Loss and Long, Lean Appearance

If you practice Pilates regularly, it will change your body. Known for creating long, strong muscles and a leaner look; Pilates improves muscle tone, balances musculature, supports beautiful posture, and teaches you to move with ease and grace. All of these things will make you look and feel very fit.

Increases Awareness - Body/Mind Connection

Joseph Pilates was adamant that Pilates, or contrology as he called it, was about "the complete coordination of body, mind, and spirit." This is one of the secrets of Pilates exercise: we practice each movement with total attention. When we exercise in this way, the body and mind unite to bring forth the most benefit possible from each exercise. The Pilates principles -- centering, concentration, control, precision, breath, and flow -- are key concepts that we use to integrate body and mind.

What the Heck is a Kegel?

 

What does “Kegel exercise" mean to you?   Have you ever done exercises for your pelvic floor? Do you know what your pelvic floor is?

Your pelvis and the tilt of your pelvis, the muscles in your pelvis are very important for going to the bathroom (1&2), balance, posture and some types of hip and low back pain, sciatica and leg pain. You see where I am going here.  Most of us never think about our pelvis, pelvic floor we just take it for granted.  Well this kind of thinking does not bring us into old age gracefully! 

First and foremost the muscles at the bottom of your torso are so important for back stabilization, a strong pelvic diaphragm prevents urinary and fecal incontinence. It promotes good vaginal, uterine, prostrate and urethra health and with a strong pelvic floor less likelihood of having back pain.

So how do you even know where to start?  The first step is to start working your urethra but stopping the flow of urine when you go to the bathroom.  Next I would say check into Pilates.  Pilates focus’ on abdominal muscles and your pelvic floor muscles (core) as well as working every muscle in your body.  It works your mind and body, and I think it is good for your soul! 

Gaining body awareness through Pilates can change everything, posture, balance, movement, strength and alignment.  Awareness is the key. 

Having control over muscles you never knew existed is kind of mind blowing! Once you start working these muscles more blood flows to these areas and you have better control over everything. So this also helps erectile dysfunction(ED).  If you can get blood into the area that calls for blood then you may not need a blue pill!   

That goes for the vagina too.  If you have strong muscles down below, you are less likely to have issues with prolapse and uterine decent. We all want to keep it tight and keep everything up there.  Also if you have problems with feeling or pain in the pelvic region, Pilates can really help improve these symptoms.

Like any work out Pilates and strengthening your pelvic floor takes patience and some work.

Take control of your body and be able to age gracefully.